The vast majority of men that I know are not like my wonderful husband, whom I admire and respect in so many ways. My husband is a sincere Christian, who is humbly seeking after God. He also tries to be a gentleman and tries to act in ways that are noble and upright. Most guys I know are crass and vulgar. They seem to enjoy swearing and revel in a lack of control of their bodily functions. They don’t act with chivalry, claiming that “women don’t want that anymore.” So? Do I stop saying “please” and “thank you” because other people don’t know how to be polite? They are addicted to porn and see nothing wrong with that… because everybody does it. They don’t strive to be a noble, gentlemanly, or godly man. Perhaps this is because there are few good role models as well, but I think a major cause of the demise of true manhood is feminism. Women went too far in pursuit of equal rights by demanding “equal treatment.” It is simply a fact of nature and the way God made us that women are not as physically strong as men. God made us different. Trying to prove how muscular and buff you can be just invites men to treat you like “one of the guys” and strips a woman of her femininity. Sure, chop the wood if the man isn’t around and wear pants if you want, but you can go too far in the other direction.

Women’s response to men’s indifference just makes matters worse. Women used to guard their chastity; now they give it away in pursuit of pleasure thanks to the Sexual Revolution, and out of desperation to get a guy. “Why buy the cow when the milk is free” is just too true to deny. Men don’t need to work or be men… the desperate woman will do it for him, absolving him of responsibility. We bought into Satan’s lie again. Did God REALLY say…? Did God really mean for a woman to work on inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit? Did God really mean that the wife is to submit to her husband? Now we have crass, vulgar, porn-addicted, buff, manly women and we wonder why the guys don’t know how to respond? True manhood means pursuing God’s best for yourself, your wife, and your kids, and many men don’t know how to do that when we’ve gone so far the other direction from what the Bible says is good and God-honoring. How can anyone trust the Bible when Christians themselves go along with the lie, “Did God REALLY say…?” Well, maybe His admonitions were only applicable to that particular culture…

I am not an activist but it just seemed too obvious for me not to comment on this issue.

And Steve, given that the Berry book is copyrighted 2010, I’m guessing that means it’s just been published. I love Berry too.

Hmm. Need to figure out if I have any more wall space for mor bookshelves…

{ notes O’Connor bio in case he ever feels too Gospelly-hopeful, happy and un-bedunged }