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How to Stop Church-Killing Gossip
Posted By Justin Taylor On February 12, 2013 @ 10:03 am In Uncategorized | Comments Disabled
Kent Hughes :
Gossip involves saying behind a person’s back what you would never say to his or her face.
Flattery means saying to a person’s face what you would never say behind his or her back.
Here are some wise words  from Dan Phillips for when you hear gossip from someone:
You can read the whole thing here .
Ray Ortlund  explains what gossip is and why it is sinfully enticing:
Gossip is our dark moral fervor eagerly seeking gratification.
Gossip makes us feel important and needed as we declare our judgments.
It makes us feel included to know the inside scoop.
It makes us feel powerful to cut someone else down to size, especially someone we are jealous of.
It makes us feel righteous, even responsible, to pronounce someone else guilty.
Gossip can feel good in multiple ways. But it is of the flesh, not of the Spirit.
. . . Gossip is a sin rarely disciplined but often more socially destructive than the sensational sins.
Gossip leaves a wide trail of devastation wherever and however it goes – word of mouth, email, blogging, YouTube.
It erodes trust and destroys morale.
It creates a social environment of suspicion where everyone must wonder what is being said behind their backs and whether appearances of friendship are sincere.
It ruins hard-won reputations with cowardly but effective weapons of misrepresentation.
It manipulates people into taking sides when no such action is necessary or beneficial.
It unleashes the dark powers of psychological transference, doing violence to the gossiper, to the one receiving the gossip and to the person being spoken against.
It makes the Body of Christ look like the Body of Antichrist – destroyers rather than healers.
It exhausts the energies we would otherwise devote to positive witness.
It robs our Lord of the Church he deserves.
It exposes the hostility in our hearts and discredits the gospel in the eyes of the world. Then we wonder why we don’t see more conversions, why “the ground is so hard.”
Read the whole thing , including his own counsel on what you should do when you start to hear gossip.
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 Kent Hughes: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1581347588/thegospcoal-20
 wise words: http://teampyro.blogspot.com/2013/02/how-to-shut-down-gossip-and-its-nasty.html
 Ray Ortlund: http://christisdeeperstill.blogspot.com/2009/05/gossip.html
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