Comments on: Violence against women: the rage of the flesh

By: The Briefing for Monday 12/10/2012 « Ponder Anew

The Briefing for Monday 12/10/2012 « Ponder Anew — Mon, 10 Dec 2012 13:13:24 +0000

[...] Violence Against Women Makes You an Enemy of God (Brief Article) Ray Ortlund (Christ Is Deeper Still) [...]

By: A La Carte (12.4.12) | familylifeatccc

A La Carte (12.4.12) | familylifeatccc — Tue, 04 Dec 2012 18:04:00 +0000

[...] Violence Against Women–the Rage of the Flesh: “Sir, if you abuse your wife or daughter or girlfriend, physically or verbally, you are more than a bully. You are the enemy of God. You are usurping his place as Judge. You tell yourself she needs a little roughing up. You tell yourself you are doing her a favor. But you are not a good man. You are an evil man and unqualified to judge. You are under God’s judgment.” [...]

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By: SiftingPoint | Violence, Demons, Pornography and the Fingerprint of God

SiftingPoint | Violence, Demons, Pornography and the Fingerprint of God — Sat, 01 Dec 2012 17:58:32 +0000

[...] Violence against women: the rage of the flesh | Ray Ortlund | The Gospel Coalition If you abuse your wife or daughter or girlfriend, physically or verbally, you are more than a bully. You are the enemy of God. You are an evil man and unqualified to judge. You are under God’s judgment. Read Post [...]

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 01 Dec 2012 05:35:17 +0000

I have come out of an abusive relationship myself and I have learned that there are five ways in which a woman can be abused; Mentally, Emotionally, Physically, Spiritually and Sexually. I do believe that there are biblical grounds for divorce in a relationship. Both Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9 state that sexual immorality is grounds for divorce. I think that “repeated” adultery shows a lack of repentance and turning from sin by your husband. Jesus said that divorce is not permissible except for unfaithfulness. The word translated “unfaithful” implies a sexually immoral lifestyle, not a confessed and repented act of adultery. You are a valued and treasured daughter of the Lord. Don’t let him pull you and your family down this dark path. God wants you to walk in the light and truth of who you are in Him. He desires freedom for you, not to stay with someone who is not willing to turn from his wicked ways. Please talk to someone who you can trust and who can give you Godly, biblical counsel. It is awful to feel like you don’t have options or hope! You do!!

By: The Goods « Core Fellowship – South Shores Church

The Goods « Core Fellowship – South Shores Church — Fri, 30 Nov 2012 06:56:09 +0000

[...] Violence Against Women: “Sir, if you abuse your wife or daughter or girlfriend, physically or verbally, you are more than a bully. You are the enemy of God…you are not a good man. You are an evil man and unqualified to judge. You are under God’s judgment.” [...]

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 29 Nov 2012 06:54:48 +0000

Would you consider adultery abuse? How should I, as a Christian woman handle the repeated acts of unfaithfulness in my marriage, (divorce is not an option)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 29 Nov 2012 01:27:21 +0000

What about neglect? As in, the husband doesn’t love her, treats her like a maid, and doesn’t want to hear about her troubles?

And why do some churches cover it all up?

By: Annoymous

Annoymous — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 20:32:24 +0000

“Sir, if you abuse your wife or daughter or girlfriend, physically or verbally, you are more than a bully.”

Would it be right to include sexual abuse as well? Especially perpetrated on young girls, teenage girls, and women.

By: Ray Ortlund

Ray Ortlund — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 18:14:07 +0000

Thank you, Naomi. Yes, it is okay to admit that. This is a Christian blog, a gospel blog, a safe place. And now my blog is better and stronger because of your contribution. I honor you.

By: Naomi

Naomi — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 18:06:20 +0000

I hope it is okay to admit all my abusive “relationships” started with my acceptance of and adherence to an un-Godly union with a man, which included fornication, cohabitation, low self-esteem, and an unwillingness to turn my life over to God. Much like Eve who listened to and followed the advice of the enemy in the Garden. If we don’t know or live by the Word, we (women) become useless to the Kingdom and to men.

By: Jane-o

Jane-o — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 17:47:07 +0000

This is a short but covers every base for any Christian man or unsaved man who has used these tactics to ‘control’ any woman in his life. I am so glad that you brought out the truth that verbal abuse is also sin. Thank you.

By: Ray Ortlund

Ray Ortlund — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 16:14:02 +0000

Thanks, Michael. That study is great news.

By: Michael Mills

Michael Mills — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:42:01 +0000

I volunteer as a Victim Advocate with my local police department. Sadly, we get more calls regarding domestic violence than any other.

The “bottom line” is correct. It is hostility toward God. But, I would point out the same could be said of all sin. Sin is acting out in thought and/or deed our desire to be god.

Something I’ve noticed in the past few years as an advocate is that people generally try to simplify the reason(s) for DV. It’s complex with a host of reasons.

Interestingly–and we’re not sure why–a BJS study has found that intimate partner violence has dropped 64 percent from 1993 to 2010.

Here’s a link to their website for those desiring more info:

http://www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=4536