Now, a man who struggles with sexual attraction to children should put safeguards in place to guard the children in his life from his weaknesses. And a man who is tempted to cheat on his wife and is aware of his weaknesses in this area, should also flee - not court - temptation. I'm not against safe guards - but they are not the ultimate protection.

Brothers should seek to treat believing women as sisters, in all purity, and to cultivate thinking about them this way. Hopefully you don't avoid your sister. You may recognize that she is an attractive woman but you don't want to violate her body and soul - she is not yours in these ways. But you hug her, converse with her, want to know how she is doing and what she is thinking, you love her in a way that does not reduce her to how her sexual characteristics can feed your physical desires.

That's how you are to treat all women, as sisters, and mothers, and daughters and fellow pilgrims. Not as enemies and temptations but as fellow image bearers...

A woman is not a bottle of alcohol. She is a person - who like you was made in the image of, and created to glorify God.

I was grieved reading this list because it very much seemed to be missing something beautiful, good and true about human relationships and human sexuality.

Paul calls on believers to live as "brothers and sisters," in purity. I'm not sure I see any encouragement here to treat your wife as your joint heir, co-laborer and sister, let alone other believing women.

Safeguards are all well and good and can be wise but holding all women at arms length because you view them as temptations doesn't make a man pure, it makes him vulnerable.

The best advice in here is cultivating the humility of knowing it "can happen to you" and choosing to let others - especially your spouse - in on your struggles.

The best antidote to the false intimacy of pornography and adultery though is to see it for the ugly lie it is. Brothers, please seek, above all, as the Holy Spirit renews your mind, to see women as sisters and co-laborers - not sexual objects and not vulnerable creatures that need you to protect and rescue them.