Comments on: Beyoncé: Power or Bondage? http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/ Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:01:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: S. http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63801 S. Mon, 11 Feb 2013 17:44:56 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63801 Sorry for my english as it is a second language, but couldn't resist to comment the article. I am a christian woman, married for almost 20 years, mother of 4 and teacher. Became christian at 25, lived as a promiscuous young lady and was influenced by the mix-match messages about sexuality and womanism and have lived with the long term negative effects of it. I have heard that message (sexy means power) and lived it. BIG BIG BIG dissapointement. Shame. Abuse. Almost depression. Thought i was the one who had the control because i was cute and sexy! But no. Not at all, actually! I have wrongly thought and hoped i have been chosen by those young men because of who i was (personality included). Cause even at that time, i have hoped for a serious and strong relationship. Nope! They were there because of the image i was sending, because i have filled there minds with fantasies. After i was conquered, guess what? They all left! They were not there for me, for engagement, for love, for respect. No, no, no! They have used the image i was sending. And we, women, think, we have control and power? I guess they, at the end, were in power and control as they got what they wanted without any compassion or empathy for what would come after: leaving without any sensability. I don't see how i can have power and control, if , by the end of the day, someone is there to use me... No thanks! Big huge lie! That is what i teach the young girls and young lady at church: be very careful with the image you are sending about yourself towards guys as they can badly interpret it and you will be the one that will live with the hurts it brings... Sorry for my english as it is a second language, but couldn't resist to comment the article.

I am a christian woman, married for almost 20 years, mother of 4 and teacher. Became christian at 25, lived as a promiscuous young lady and was influenced by the mix-match messages about sexuality and womanism and have lived with the long term negative effects of it. I have heard that message (sexy means power) and lived it. BIG BIG BIG dissapointement. Shame. Abuse. Almost depression. Thought i was the one who had the control because i was cute and sexy! But no. Not at all, actually! I have wrongly thought and hoped i have been chosen by those young men because of who i was (personality included). Cause even at that time, i have hoped for a serious and strong relationship. Nope! They were there because of the image i was sending, because i have filled there minds with fantasies. After i was conquered, guess what? They all left! They were not there for me, for engagement, for love, for respect. No, no, no! They have used the image i was sending. And we, women, think, we have control and power? I guess they, at the end, were in power and control as they got what they wanted without any compassion or empathy for what would come after: leaving without any sensability. I don't see how i can have power and control, if , by the end of the day, someone is there to use me...

No thanks! Big huge lie! That is what i teach the young girls and young lady at church: be very careful with the image you are sending about yourself towards guys as they can badly interpret it and you will be the one that will live with the hurts it brings...

]]> By: Saturday Shout-Outs: RAAN, 40th Birthday, & Ministry Links | H.B. Charles Jr. http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63393 Saturday Shout-Outs: RAAN, 40th Birthday, & Ministry Links | H.B. Charles Jr. Sat, 09 Feb 2013 09:52:03 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63393 [...] Trillia Newbell: Beyonce’: Power or Bondage? [...] [...] Trillia Newbell: Beyonce’: Power or Bondage? [...]

]]> By: The Gospel of Sex « The Lonely Disciple http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63275 The Gospel of Sex « The Lonely Disciple Fri, 08 Feb 2013 22:30:22 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63275 [...] The Gospel Coalition [...] [...] The Gospel Coalition [...]

]]> By: Melody http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63063 Melody Fri, 08 Feb 2013 15:57:08 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63063 It is not true. In the animal kingdom it is the male that must dress up and make himself attractive and prove himself worthy in parenting offspring. Only in humans is it turned around where every pot-bellied slacker is a potential father because women have rarely had a say in what they got stuck with. Only in Christ is there any hope of an even playing field. Even still we have pastors carrying on about what their wives look like giving the example to the younger men that ultimately you want to make sure that you have a good looking wife. As to if your looks warrant it never seems to enter into it since men always see themselves as more attractive than reality. Don't take what I'm saying too too seriously since I may be a little testy today. It is not true. In the animal kingdom it is the male that must dress up and make himself attractive and prove himself worthy in parenting offspring. Only in humans is it turned around where every pot-bellied slacker is a potential father because women have rarely had a say in what they got stuck with.
Only in Christ is there any hope of an even playing field. Even still we have pastors carrying on about what their wives look like giving the example to the younger men that ultimately you want to make sure that you have a good looking wife. As to if your looks warrant it never seems to enter into it since men always see themselves as more attractive than reality.

Don't take what I'm saying too too seriously since I may be a little testy today.

]]> By: Melody http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63061 Melody Fri, 08 Feb 2013 15:52:28 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63061 It's extremely false and certainly would be a reason for isolating some men and to keep them from parenting any offspring. It's extremely false and certainly would be a reason for isolating some men and to keep them from parenting any offspring.

]]> By: The Empowerment Lie « Seth's Oasis http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63058 The Empowerment Lie « Seth's Oasis Fri, 08 Feb 2013 15:33:40 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63058 [...] the hyper-sexed half-time show of the Super Bowl and some of the commercials as being “empowering to women” rather than objectifying and degrading women.  Yet, when a person responds to the [...] [...] the hyper-sexed half-time show of the Super Bowl and some of the commercials as being “empowering to women” rather than objectifying and degrading women.  Yet, when a person responds to the [...]

]]> By: jonathan http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-63021 jonathan Fri, 08 Feb 2013 11:59:42 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-63021 I think what is most disturbing are all these Christian blogs discussing Beyonce and her performance and clothing attire. It is very questionable of a christians profession if his heart is still in the world and disturbs not his conscience. I think what is most disturbing are all these Christian blogs discussing Beyonce and her performance and clothing attire. It is very questionable of a christians profession if his heart is still in the world and disturbs not his conscience.

]]> By: Melody http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-62936 Melody Fri, 08 Feb 2013 02:55:25 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-62936 The "Sabbath" is the seventh day. If a person wants to get legalistic then they should keep that in mind. The other thing, when it came on at my house(the game). It was sunset already so the remade Sabbath was over too. Add to that the fact that we have recording devices AND it has been all over the news. So even those of us that didn't watch the game know all the details too. I'm pretty sure that nothing is kept holy with a bad attitude about it. Jesus said something to that effect. The "Sabbath" is the seventh day. If a person wants to get legalistic then they should keep that in mind. The other thing, when it came on at my house(the game). It was sunset already so the remade Sabbath was over too. Add to that the fact that we have recording devices AND it has been all over the news. So even those of us that didn't watch the game know all the details too.
I'm pretty sure that nothing is kept holy with a bad attitude about it. Jesus said something to that effect.

]]> By: pentamom http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-62926 pentamom Fri, 08 Feb 2013 01:46:45 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-62926 I agree with you about women holding the power in this sense. But ultimately, it is not civilization that can effectively check it; it has to come from women refusing to use power (of any kind) over others, instead submitting all our abilities and potential for power, to the call of Christ. What civilization can do only lasts for as long as civilization lasts, and not in places where ordered civilization is not present. But even barbarian women can learn to exercise their sexuality godly wives rather than power-goddesses, and barbarian men to be Christlike husbands rather than either takers of or beggers for sex. Come to think of it, that's what happened (in a limited fashion) a couple of millennia ago in Europe. I agree with you about women holding the power in this sense. But ultimately, it is not civilization that can effectively check it; it has to come from women refusing to use power (of any kind) over others, instead submitting all our abilities and potential for power, to the call of Christ. What civilization can do only lasts for as long as civilization lasts, and not in places where ordered civilization is not present. But even barbarian women can learn to exercise their sexuality godly wives rather than power-goddesses, and barbarian men to be Christlike husbands rather than either takers of or beggers for sex. Come to think of it, that's what happened (in a limited fashion) a couple of millennia ago in Europe.

]]> By: Beyonce: Power or Bondage? | Treading Grain http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/02/05/beyonc-power-or-bondage/#comment-62812 Beyonce: Power or Bondage? | Treading Grain Thu, 07 Feb 2013 19:03:50 +0000 http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/?p=32194#comment-62812 [...] Read the rest. [...] [...] Read the rest. [...]

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