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Jul

13

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|1:54 pm CT

What to Do Now
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I love reading or hearing from Kevin DeYoung on the local church.  From C.J., recapping Kevin DeYoung’s message at Next 2010:

To close out his Next 2010 conference message, “The Church,” Kevin DeYoung gave a list of suggestions for how to be a difference maker in the local church. He said:

• Find a good local church.
• Get involved.
• Become a member.
• Stay there as long as you can.
• Put away thoughts of a revolution for a while.
• Join the plodding visionaries.
• Go to church this Sunday and worship in Spirit and truth.
• Be patient with your leaders.
• Rejoice when the gospel is faithfully proclaimed.
• Bear with those who hurt you.
• Give people the benefit of the doubt.
• Say “hi” to the teenager that no one notices.
• Welcome the old ladies with the blue hair and the young men with tattoos.
• Volunteer for the nursery.
• Attend the congregational meeting.
• Bring your fried chicken to the potluck like everybody else.
• Invite a friend.
• Take a new couple out for coffee.
• Give to the Christmas offering.
• Sing like you mean it.
• Be thankful someone vacuumed the carpet for you.
• Enjoy the Sundays that “click.”
• Pray extra hard on the Sundays that don’t.
• And in all of this, do not despise the days and weeks and years of small things (Zechariah 4:8–10).
I cannot recommend this message too highly. Please take time to download and listen to “The Church” by visiting the resource page at thisisnext.org.

Good counsel–both Kevin’s list of 20 and C.J.’s recommendation to listen to the sermon.

 
 

Jun

21

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|1:52 am CT

Preventing Church Splits (Re-post)
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Note: My wife and I are traveling back from the New Life Bible conference.  As we travel and settle back into our routine with the family, I’ll post a series on preventing church splits first posted in 2006.  I pray they are of encouragement to some.  Grace and peace.

I have a new and growing conviction. It’s occupying a lot of my thoughts these days… good thoughts, I think. I don’t know why it hasn’t always been a conviction, at least not quite in this way. But, nonetheless, I am convinced that one of my fundamental objectives as a pastor is to prevent church splits from happening.

I don’t mean that it’s my responsibility to make sure no one leaves, or to settle every dispute in a way that preserves unity at all costs. No, there’ll be times when a “split” will humanly speaking be inevitable, and I trust that the Lord has good purposes in causing or allowing them to happen.

What I mean is this: I have some basic responsibilities as a pastor. I must teach and preach God’s Word; I must pray; I must be an example; and, I must carry on a visitation ministry. That’s basically what I think a pastor is to do (admittedly a bit oversimplified). But I am increasingly convinced that I am to do those things with a particular perspective. I’m to do those things with an eye toward the developing and continuing unity of the church. Said negatively, I’m to work in such a way as to prevent the splintering of Christ’s local body in my charge.

It seems to me that preventing splits is a bit like preventative health care. Most of us trolly through life without caring much about our health. We eat any and most everything. We don’t exercise regularly. Our sleep habits are terrible. We overwork ourselves at high-stress jobs, and we seldom take vacations. Then we go to the doctor for a checkup or because some pain or another won’t go away. That’s when we hear the news: our bodies have actually been carrying on a covert coup against us. We’re told that our blood pressure is high. Cholesterol is clogging up blood flow. And then there is the dreaded “O” word that seems to be wreaking havoc on youth in particular–obesity.

We react with surprise at the news. Not the kind of surprise that’s completely unsuspecting; we knew that neglecting ourselves could result in these things. No, we’re surprised because it happened to us. “High blood pressure… that’s aunt Annie’s problem. Obesity… that’s uncle Bobo’s issue.” The reality of the problem–completely preventable if it had been at least a part of our focus–comes crashing home. We’re sick and now there is only the drudgery of changing life-long habits and/or undergoing some radical procedure.

I think church splits are a lot like that. Churches adopt lifelong bad habits, deny the warning signs (the sleeplessness, headaches and chest pains), and then are surprised when part of the body carries out the silent coup. They don’t think it will happen to them no matter how bad things get. And then it does and the pain is great.

There were early warning signs:

  • Growing numbers of cliques and factions. Cliques present themselves as “natural friendships,” groups of people who “get along” because of some shared interests, backgrounds, or ideas. But without care, these groups will harden into impenetrable factions that use their common interests as a rallying cry against the rest of the body.
  • Low concern for the church qua church. We live in a Christian era that stresses the individual like no era before it. Most people think Christianity is about me and “my personal relationship with Jesus.” That little phrase, “my personal,” acting as a kind of double possessive, is deadly to the body. And it’s often compounded by the next warning signal.
  • Self-interests dominate group interests. If life is all about “my personal relationship” then I’m likely to be quite self-seeking. I want to be stimulated. I want to be served. I want my preferences met. I… I… I… till there is no “we” left. And where that exists, there will be little concern–certainly not ultimate concern–for the needs and mission of the larger group, the church.
  • Isolated and absent members. It’s understandable, given the first three symptoms, that some number of members will be isolated in the body, without any meaningful relationships, or absent altogether. Large numbers of isolated and absent members actually have the peculiar effect of making it more difficult to pastor those who are attending. Isolated and absent members make it more difficult to know who is in your care and who is not. And at various points they will cause you to expend a lot of energy trying to “catch up with them” and diagnose their spiritual state. But there’s another problem. These isolated and absentee members actually undermine the very fabric of fellowship and relationships in the body. They make it normal to be a part of a church and simultaneously anonymous and uninvolved with others. So, there becomes no relational context in the church to support a wider concern for the church, making splits easier to ponder.
  • Lack of humility. Pride is a lethal foe. Combine pride with any of the symptoms above and you can just hear the emergency room attendant yelling “STAT” into the loud speaker. Pride surfaces itself in an unwillingness to hear feedback, be it a word of correction, instruction and even encouragement. Pride in the cliques says, “we’ve got it all together and those folks over there need to get with us.” Pride in “lone ranger Christians” contends that she/he doesn’t need the church. Absent members exhibit pride when they say, “Leave me alone; this is my life.” This pride is deadly serious.
  • Mixed allegiance to the pastor(s)/elders. Sometimes some members feel a fierce allegiance to the pastor(s), while others feel fairly opposed or indifferent to him/them. And when church members clump together on the poles of love and dislike, you can just about be certain that some significant number of them have taken their eyes off the true Head of the Church, Jesus. One cries “I’m with Appollos,” and another cries “I’m with Paul.” The fact that everyone is not crying “I’m with Jesus” and “We follow our pastors as they follow Jesus” should be of real concern.
  • Low emphasis on the Word of God. I can’t state this problem better than David Wells’ observation (HT: Mark Dever). Quite simply, if we lose the centrality, sufficiency, and authority of the Word of God, we unravel the church as we abandon the only rule of faith and conduct.

These are some of the early warning signals for a church split. Imperceptible at their start, they grow very slowly in most cases. When you feel mild discomfort from them, they’ve usually rooted themselves to some extent. And by the time you feel real pain, those roots have formed huge balls and arteries that wrap themselves around the foundation of the house. Excavating them will be painful and costly. But in many cases, by the time you feel the pain, the conditions for a split are quite abundant.

I’m convinced that it’s my job to pastor in such a way that I try to ward off, retard, uproot or cut out these problems before they give birth to greater sin. I need to approach the basic task of pastoring with at least one eye toward prevention. And I need to look beyond the horizon of this present congregation to consider those who are coming after us, to take the long view with the hopes of leaving a congregation that would be healthy for generations should the Lord tarry.

Since pastors tend to impress upon their congregations something of their own personalities, their strengths and weaknesses, and that impress tends to linger through subsequent generations and pastorates, for good and for ill, I need to work hard at being an example of one that loves like Jesus loves and one that encourages and teaches others to pursue unity and peace. That’s my task, I think. That’s the task of every Christian (Eph. 4). In the next couple of posts, we’ll explore some ways of thinking about and living out this task.

 
 

Jun

09

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|7:58 am CT

Around the Blog in 80 Seconds: Church Polity Edition
Around the Blog in 80 Seconds: Church Polity Edition avatar

There are quite a few helpful and interesting things circulating in the blogosphere today.  A couple of them are noted below:

On Church Covenants

Justin Taylor posts the new church covenant adopted by his church.  I really like this one.  It retains some of the familiar elements of a widely used covenant, but adds some really helpful bits of quotations and paraphrases from Scripture while updating the language in places.  A wonderful covenant for defining the commitments of members to the Lord, to one another, and to themselves.  One of the most beautiful things a church can do is renew their covenant with one another at the Lord’s Supper and/or baptism.  This is a great document to consider.

On Church Agreement

Michael Patton offers a post asking a necessary and provocative question: “How theologically diverse should your church be?” That’s a good question: How much agreement must there be in a local church?  Now, Patton simply sets up and raises the question.  We’re waiting, Michael, on the answer.  But I suspect he’s wise enough to know that on some basic level this is worked out in the real live, flesh and blood, every dayness of each local church.  It’s a question that admits of degrees and shades, but it’s worth thinking through.

On the Need for Ecclesiology

At TGC Reviews, Michael DeWalt has a good review of Daniel Hyde’s book, Welcome to a Reformed Church. In addition to a good overview of the book, DeWalt includes this gem from Hyde’s from a previous interview:

Not only is evangelicalism a churchless phenomenon—meaning, that the doctrine and nature of the church is utterly neglected—but much of what is passing itself off as “Reformed” today has no real semblance of ecclesiology. Sure there are great preachers out there and people who believe in the so-called five points of Calvinism, but it’s just evangelicalism with the doctrine of election added on. All this to say that I want visitors to my church, and those who may visit other churches, to know that we have a high regard for the church. Worship is our chief end as the Westminster Catechisms state and it is the context in which God meets with his people through the means he has appointed: Word and sacraments.

Boy, that’s spot-on.  Ecclesiology is simply missing in far too many [irony alert] churches.  I know that many people would say the doctrine of the church is a secondary matter.  Viewed in abstract theological terms and compared to something like the Trinity, I’d agree.  But switch the view to a practical, on-the-ground, how-do-you-care-for-the-sheep perspective, and what’s secondary in one sense becomes vitally important and necessary in another.  I’m looking forward to reading this book.

 
 

May

31

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|12:21 pm CT

Caring for Everyone in the Flock
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Last night following our members’ meeting, I sat with two people from the church discussing the importance of our caring for everyone in the church.  The verses that best capture this biblical vision of what the church ought to be are 1 Cor. 12:24b-25, “But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other.”

Every time I read that I go, “Wow.”  And it’s instructive, too.  The apostle Paul is writing to a church that knows its share of divisions (1 Cor. 1:10-12).  So he tells them that the opposite of division isn’t simply a lack of strife or a vague unity, it is each part having “equal concern for each other.”  That’s a massive vision for the local church and for pastoral ministry, and clear direction as to how we are to learn to live together.

My brother Brian Croft takes up this issue from a pastoral ministry perspective.  He opens a very practical and helpful post called “How Can I Be Sure I Am Regularly Shepherding Everyone in the Church?” with these words:

Though we are shepherds who will give an account for each soul in our care (Heb. 13:17), we all still have this tendency to gravitate to those we either love to be with the most or who make the most racket, thus demanding our attention.  Because of this, there are church members who unintentionally slip through the cracks.  In seeing this in the early years of my ministry, I came up with this system that has become a very effective way to care for our folks and to cut down on unnecessary and unintentional neglect.

What pastor hasn’t at some time felt that nauseating guilt about missing some member or another?  Brian unpacks his own practice as one approach for watching over the 99 and the 1:

I created a prayer guide with each member of the church broken into a 28 day chart in alphabetical order.  This is to represent the first 28 days of each month.  On day 1, I pray for those 5-6 people or families.  Then, I try to make some kind of personal contact with them that day in the form of a home visit, email, hand written card, phone call, facebook note, or text message to let them know I prayed for them on that day.  Lastly, I ask in that moment of personal contact if there is anything I can do to serve them.  For those I haven’t seen recently, I will usually call or go see them to get an update on how they are doing in general.

Read the brief but helpful post in its entirety.  Next time Brian promises us some suggestions for doing this in larger churches.

Related Posts:

Practical Shepherding

Five Things I Need to Remember as a Pastor Today

Toward Reforming Membership Practices

Mutual Belonging as Local Church Membership

 
 

May

01

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|3:25 pm CT

Introducing Nine Marks of a Healthy Church
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Many of you are already familiar with Nine Marks of a Healthy Church, a book on church health written by Mark Dever.  But if you thought the “nine marks” was a club name for Mark Dever and eight interns… the following short videos are a great primer on these important issues.

Why These Nine Marks? from 9Marks on Vimeo.

1-Expositional Preaching from 9Marks on Vimeo.

2-Biblical Theology from 9Marks on Vimeo.

3-Good News from 9Marks on Vimeo.

4-Conversion from 9Marks on Vimeo.

5-Evangelism from 9Marks on Vimeo.

6-Membership from 9Marks on Vimeo.

7-Discipline from 9Marks on Vimeo.

8-Discipleship & Growth from 9Marks on Vimeo.

9-Leadership from 9Marks on Vimeo.

 
 

Mar

06

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|8:15 am CT

Don’t Leave Your Church–Work at It!
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Wise counsel:

 
 

Jan

24

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|7:45 pm CT

How to Wreck Your Church in Three Weeks
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Tonight at our evening service, a dear sister prayed for our members’ meeting next week.  She prayed for the Lord to continue to bless us with the sweet unity and peace we’ve been enjoying for a long time now.  I was moved by the prayer, and deeply grateful for the evidence of God’s Spirit among us.  There are no conflicts in the church that I am aware of.  There are no signs of division or unresolved disagreement.  It’s peaceful.  It’s sweet.  It’s not easy; we’re all sinners.  But we’re redeemed sinners and God is giving us such mercy.  Things are good–actually, much better than good.  They’re great–imperfect to be sure, but great.

That’s why it’s a perfect time to post this powerful note from Christ Is Deeper Still.  Read, pray, repent if necessary.

How to wreck your church in three weeks

Week One:  Walk into church today and think about how long you’ve been a member, how much you’ve sacrificed, how under-appreciated you are.  Take note of every way you’re dissatisfied with your church now.  Take note of every person who displeases you.

Meet for coffee this week with another member and “share your heart.”  Discuss how your church is changing, how you are being left out.  Ask your friend who else in the church has “concerns.”  Agree together that you must “pray about it.”

Week Two:  Send an email to a few other “concerned” members.  Inform them that a groundswell of grievance is surfacing in your church.  Problems have gone unaddressed for too long.  Ask them to keep the matter to themselves “for the sake of the body.”

As complaints come in, form them into a petition to demand an accounting from the leaders of the church.  Circulate the petition quietly.  Gathering support will be easy.  Even happy members can be used if you appeal to their sense of fairness – that your side deserves a hearing.  Be sure to proceed in a way that conforms to your church constitution, so that your petition is procedurally correct.

Week Three:  When the growing moral fervor, ill-defined but powerful, reaches critical mass, confront the elders with your demands.  Inform them of all the woundedness in the church, which leaves you with no choice but to put your petition forward.  Inform them that, for the sake of reconciliation, the concerns of the body must be satisfied.

Whatever happens from this point on, you have won.  You have changed the subject in your church from gospel advance to your own grievances.  To some degree, you will get your way.  Your church will need three or four years for recovery.  But at any future time, you can do it all again.  It only takes three weeks.

Just one question.  Even if you are being wronged, “Why not rather suffer wrong?” (1 Corinthians 6:7)

 
 

Jan

13

2010

Thabiti Anyabwile|7:44 am CT

Does Your Church Look Like This?
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“Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.  They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.  Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and miraculous signs were done by the apostles.  All the believers were together and had everything in common.  Selling their possessions and goods, they gave to anyone as he had need.  Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts.  They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people.  And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved” (Acts 2:41-47).

What do you think and feel when you read this description of the church in her first days?

Personally, I long for it deeply.  I think, How extraordinary and wonderful and glorious and needed.  Fall upon us Holy Spirit!  Come Lord Jesus!

It’s striking how mere the life of the church was, and yet how profoundly powerful was its effect.  May the Lord grant us such mere devotion yielding such glorious and lasting fruit!

Related Posts:

There Mereness of Church: Life Together

The Mereness of Church: Her Singing

The Mereness of Church: Its Mission

The Mereness of Church: Preaching

 
 

Dec

27

2009

Thabiti Anyabwile|7:39 am CT

Why Are You Going to Church This Morning?
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“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted” (Gal. 6:1).

Joel Beeke in 365 Days with Calvin selects this comment from Calvin:

The opposite sin in rebuking one who has fallen is excessive harshness.

Hypocrites often use this kind of rebuke, for when they see a speck in their neighbor’s eye, they cry out in alarm, yet they have a large beam in their own eye that they do nothing about, as our Lord Jesus says (Matt. 7:4). Since many people enlarge their consciences to swallow an entire camel yet strain at a gnat when it comes to the faults of others, we must guard against being too harsh or too severe when we reprove others. It seems to some that they are only correctly doing their duty if they loudly sound the trumpet when another person falls. (Pharisee.)

How many cautionary words today spring from righteous concern? If a person sees his neighbor doing evil, he should, if he has an opening and an opportunity, show him his fault, yet we see nothing of this! For if each one spies on his friends and listens as he keeps watch to see if he can find anything to reprove, then he will be severe in the extreme. (Pharisee)

However, those who are severely dealt with in this way certainly cannot complain. After all, why else has evil become so prevalent in today’s society? Indeed, few people are admonished in private anymore to bring them back to God; rather, the sins that were hidden are slanderously published abroad.

Why? We cannot bear to hear the truth about ourselves. We want to cleave to our sins, as if no one has any authority or jurisdiction over us. True community cannot exist among us without such mutual correction, in which we all willingly submit to one another.

This morning, I’m headed to the Lord’s true community, the church of saints called FBC, to have the log removed from my own Pharisaical eyes by the preaching of the word and to then show some corrected-vision-concern for the brethren. To be restored and to restore. To be reproved and to reprove.  To be a genuine part of the community of the redeemed.

Why are you going to church this morning?

 
 

Dec

04

2009

Thabiti Anyabwile|3:22 am CT

Should You Allow Someone to Resign from Church Membership When They Are About to Be Disciplined?
Should You Allow Someone to Resign from Church Membership When They Are About to Be Disciplined? avatar

Check out Russell Moore and Greg Wills, church historian and author of Democratic Religion, as they briefly (3.5 minutes) discuss this issue.