After reading numerous articles recently and seeing various book titles claiming that commitments to Jesus seem to be on the rise while commitments to the church are decreasing (and most of the writers are claiming that this is a good thing), I wanted to share this small portion of my book Do I Know God? This section appears in a chapter entitled “The Practical Pursuit of Assurance.”
When God saves us, he saves us as individuals, but he saves us into a community—the church, the living community of faith. This means there’s no such thing as individualistic Christianity. God never intended us to live our lives pursuing him on our own. After creating the world and pronouncing it all “very good” (Genesis 1:31), God said that one thing was not good. Speaking of Adam—and in a sense of each of us—he said, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18). While it’s true that God is all we need, he wants us to enjoy his goodness and love through others.
The fact is, I can’t follow God on my own, and neither can you. We need each other; we need the church. The church is God’s family, and as we experience love and grace in God’s family, we also experience God’s love and grace through them. When the church helps us and encourages us, it’s God helping us and encouraging us through our brothers and sisters.
But experiencing God through his church takes work and discipline. It takes time. We experience God’s devotion to us only as we devote ourselves to the church and invest in the people of God. Just as with any other spiritual discipline, however, the more we invest ourselves, the more deeply we’ll experience God’s assurance of his eternal love for us. The church is the communal arena of grace where God grows us, matures us, and changes us through one another. That’s why it’s simply not possible to know that you know God apart from the church.
My friend Joshua Harris wrote an impassioned book called Stop Dating the Church, which is a clear call to fall in love with the family of God. In that book he points out that one of the most practical ways to experience assurance of your salvation is to join a local church, because “the local church is the place where our new life in Christ is lived out and proven.”
Sadly, not any local church will do. Some churches will help you in your spiritual journey; some won’t. I often tell people that selecting a good church is one of the most important choices you will ever make. Check out chapter 5 of Josh’s book for a helpful list of how to choose a good church.
Of course, since churches are made up of people in various stages of maturity, there’s no such thing as a perfect church. If you hold out for a church that fits every criterion on your long list of preferences, you’ll never engage. And that reminds me of a favorite story.
A few years ago I was in Starbucks with our music director, Brandon. As we waited in line to get our afternoon caffeine kick, the young barista behind the counter overheard us talking about our church, which at that point was only a year old, and we started chatting. Brandon soon invited her to visit our church one Sunday. She responded in typical postmodern fashion, saying, “I’m into spirituality, but I’m not really into organized religion.” Brandon, who has a wonderfully quick wit, replied, “Don’t worry, we’re really not that organized.”
The barista’s statement illustrates what many people believe today, namely that they can have a meaningful relationship with God without being connected to a local church. But it’s just not possible to have Christ the head without Christ the body—his church (Ephesians 1:22–23; Colossians 1:18). The two are inseparable. To neglect the body of Christ is to neglect Christ. Just as no one can survive without air, so Christians can’t survive without the church.
The bottom line is this: a real relationship with God will show itself in a real relationship with his people. And as we live our lives in the family of God, and as we listen to God through his Word and pray to him, God assures us of our salvation.