If you belonged to a church in Puritan New England, you probably gathered for worship in a wood-framed building walled with simple white clapboard. You sat on bare wooden pews surrounded by clear glass windows that let in the light and looked out on God’s good world. The space was sparse, unadorned, and free of all images except those created by the words of the preacher. Puritan worship spaces were simple by design.
Contrast that simplicity with what you would’ve seen on your way into this building. You would’ve passed through a churchyard full of gravestones carved with elaborate, sometimes jarring images. These stones survive as one of early America’s most popular and powerful art forms. To modern tastes, the images often border on grotesque. There are skulls flanked by wings, skeletons holding scythes, and perhaps most commonly, hourglasses running out of time. These stones aimed for your imagination. They meant to make death sensible.
On some of the stones you’d probably find two Latin words etched among the images: memento mori. Roughly translated, the phrase means “remember death.” With these stones, as well as in their sermons and a range of practical writings, the Puritans were drawing from an old Christian tradition that sought to bring the perspective of death into everyday life. I don’t mean preparation for one’s own death, though that too was a time-honored tradition. I mean the perspective that death as unshakeable reality brings to life in the meantime.
Death-awareness came easily for these Puritans. Life expectancy then was less than half what it is for Americans now. And where most deaths today occur in medical facilities cordoned off from where we live, they died in their homes, in the same rooms where other family members slept in their beds or ate their meals or read their books.
When the reality of death fades to the background of our consciousness, other joy-stealing problems are quick to rise up and fill the void.
Given the pervasive presence of death, the call to remember death was surely easier for them to embrace than for us. They had visible reminders of death’s grip all around them, whereas many of us can avoid the subject for most of our lives if we choose to. But for that reason, the discipline of death-awareness is perhaps even more crucial in our time, where life expectancy may be twice as long, but the mortality rate holds steady at universal.
Consider just two reasons memento mori still matters today.
1. Death Puts Our Other Problems in Perspective
When the reality of death fades to the background of our consciousness, other joy-stealing problems are quick to rise up and fill the void.
French philosopher Blaise Pascal put his finger on this problem 400 years ago. He noticed the way most people seemed indifferent to “the loss of their being” but intensely concerned about everything else:
They fear the most trifling things, foresee and feel them; and the same man who spends so many days and nights in fury and despair at losing some office or at some imaginary affront to his honor is the very one who knows that he is going to lose everything through death but feels neither anxiety nor emotion. It is a monstrous thing to see one and the same heart at once so sensitive to minor things and so strangely insensitive to the greatest.
Pascal’s insight is perhaps even more important today: when death is pushed out of our thinking, it isn’t replaced by warmth and peace and happiness. It’s replaced by death’s many other faces. We fixate instead on the comparatively trivial symptoms of our deeper problem. We’re still anxious, still defensive, still insecure, still angry, still despairing. We may detach ourselves from death so we can spend our time and energy chasing happiness. But that detachment won’t change the fact of our mortality, and it won’t ultimately make us happier.
2. Death Brings the Power of Jesus into Focus
All that said, you’d be forgiven for assuming that, whatever wisdom comes from seeing death all over life, there are major downsides too. You might be tempted to imagine these New England Puritans as morose and joyless souls, fighting their way through brutish and short lives—as if thinking often of death meant living under a dark and depressing cloud, distracted from the goodness and beauty of the world around them. But that was far from true of them, and need not be true of you either.
The Puritans worked to capture the imagination with death to prepare the imagination for Jesus.
Recognizing the relevance of death every day is how we recognize the relevance of Jesus every day, too.
Think of death-awareness as a kind of telescope. To the naked eye the promises of Jesus can seem small, beyond my frame of view, remote and disconnected from what I see around me. They belong to some other world than the one I’m living in. But when I learn to see the painful truth about death, that begins to change. When I use the reality of death as a telescope, looking through it to grab hold of his image, Jesus comes forward and into focus, blown up to size so that he dominates my entire frame.
Recognizing that death is a bigger problem than we’ve realized is just the first step, not an end in itself. As we experience its sting everywhere, we’re also experiencing the relevance of Jesus’s promise of victory. In other words, recognizing the relevance of death every day is how we recognize the relevance of Jesus every day, too.
Related:
- To Grow Spiritually, Start Thinking About Death (Collin Hansen and Matt McCullough)
- Remember Death. Enjoy a Life of Hope. (Phil Letizia)
- 20 Quotes from a Profound New Book on Death (Ivan Mesa)
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