Beware the god of Open Options

As an Englishman, one of the biggest challenges I’ve faced in America is automated call centers. You miss a package delivery from FedEx, and you have to call them to arrange a new delivery time. The problem is that when you call, you aren’t connected to a human being. You’re connected to a talking robot programmed to recognize what you are saying in English.

Or should I say, it’s programmed to recognize what you’re saying in American English.

Every time I call FedEx, I end up conducting the entire conversation in an accent that can only be described as the unholy offspring of John Wayne and Judi Dench. The talking robot, surely trying hard not to laugh, keeps asking me to repeat myself. For a Brit, it’s absolutely humiliating. It’s as if someone has implemented the whole system as payback for nearly two centuries of colonial rule.

The last time it happened, it occurred to me that this nightmarish limbo is a familiar place for many of us. Making choices and moving on with our lives seems increasingly difficult. We feel paralyzed: unable to make choices about relationships, dating, marriage, money, family, and career. I want to suggest that if we feel unable to make these choices, it’s not because we have the wrong accent. It may be because we’re worshiping a false god.

God of Open Options

In 1 Kings 18:21, we encounter a crucial moment of decision. It’s the final showdown between the God of Israel and a false god called Baal. Elijah calls God’s people to choose once and for all between the living God who delivered them, and this false god who has captured their affections: “‘How long will you waver between two opinions? If the LORD is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him.’ But the people said nothing.”

They seem unable, or unwilling, to make a choice. They want to hedge their bets, sit on the fence, keep their options open.

How different are we in the 21st century? Would you prefer to make an ironclad, no-turning-back choice, or one you could back out of if need be? Do you ever find that you’re afraid to commit? Do you reply to party invitations with a “maybe” rather than a “yes” or “no”? Do you like to keep your smartphone switched on at all times, even in meetings, so that you’re never fully present at any given moment? Will you focus on the person you’re talking to after a church service, or will you look over her shoulder for a better conversation partner?

If so, you may be worshiping the god of open options.

Paradox of Open Options

People wait years before declaring a college major; others only go to stores with a guaranteed return policy; and it’s not unusual for a person to date someone for years before getting married—if they ever do get married. From sex to spirituality, we reserve the right to keep our options open in every department of our lives.

In his book The Paradox of Choice, psychologist Barry Schwartz explains why we have trouble committing, why we love to keep our options open. He observes that as a culture we demand choice. We demand options. We imagine more options mean more freedom. And most people think that limitless freedom must be a good option.

Baal of Open Options

Over the years, the Israelites had seen themselves delivered from slavery—repeatedly, spectacularly, miraculously—by the living God. The Egyptian gods were powerless against him, as were the gods of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. Yet here they are in 1 Kings 18, their faces licking the dust before Baal, worshiping another soon-to-be-defeated god.

It should disgust us. But as God’s people today, how different are we? We’ve been delivered from slavery to sin by Christ’s death and resurrection, spectacularly and miraculously.

Yet here we are, many of us, worshiping the very gods that Christ has triumphed over, when we know they are defeated gods, and will only drag us to our deaths if we cling to them.

We worship the god of open options. And he’s killing us.

We worship the god of open options. And he’s killing us. He kills our relationships, because he tells us it’s better not to become too involved. He kills our service to others because he tells us it might be better to keep our weekends to ourselves. He kills our giving because he tells us these are uncertain financial times and you never know when you might need that money. He kills our joy in Christ because he tells us it’s better not to be thought of as too spiritual.

In fact, he promises you freedom from all gods, all responsibilities. “Keep your options open,” he whispers. “Worship me, and you don’t have to serve anything or anyone. No commitment necessary. Total freedom.”

God Who Commits

The living God, the loving, triune God, didn’t create us to keep our options open. He didn’t create us to live in fear of making a choice. He didn’t create us to be like Robert De Niro’s character in the 1995 movie Heat, a man who vows never to get involved in a relationship he can’t walk away from in 30 seconds. God created us to commit: to him, and to others. He created us to choose. It’s right to be careful in our decision-making, of course: to pray, to seek counsel from Scripture and from wise Christians. The bigger the decision, the more careful we should be.

But there comes a point when pausing becomes procrastination, when waiting is no longer wise. There comes a point when not choosing becomes idolatry. It becomes a lack of trust in the God who ordains the decisions we will make, gathers up the frayed ends, and works all things for our good and his glory.

Choose the God who closed off all other alternatives so that he could pursue for himself one bride. Choose the God who chose not to come down from the cross until she was won.

Be wise, but then rest in God’s total sovereignty and goodness—and choose. Commit. Make a decision. Be wholehearted and single-minded. James 1:6–8 puts it like this: “Believe and do not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. . . . Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.”

Trust that God is good and sovereign, and redeems our choices. If even the choices of those who murdered his own Son were ordained for our own infinite good (Acts 4:27–28), then how can we doubt that he intends good to come from even our ill-advised choices?

Another reason for rejecting the god of open options is because the living God himself is a God who chooses. And he made us in his image.

• “He chose us in him before the creation of the world” (Eph. 1:4).
• “God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise” (1 Cor. 1:27).
• “God chose you . . . to be saved through the sanctifying work of the Spirit” (2 Thess. 2:13).

If the living God were as fond of keeping his options open as we are, we’d have nothing to look forward to except eternal torment.

Commit to the Living God

So let me ask you, in what area of your life are you still flirting with the god of open options? Where are you refusing to choose? Maybe you’re refusing to commit to a particular relationship. Maybe you’re not truly committed at work—you have Facebook open in one of your browser tabs, half hoping to be interrupted. Maybe you still haven’t joined a healthy church. Maybe your restless eyes are on constant alert for something or someone better.

Maybe you’re keeping your options open with God himself, not allowing yourself to become too committed. Elijah is speaking to you in 1 Kings, and he’s saying, “Make a choice.” You have all the information about God you need. Enough of this noncommittal, risk-averse, weak-willed, God-forgetting immaturity. Or, as it probably says in some of the more modern translations, “Grow up.”

You have all the information about God you need. Enough of this noncommittal, risk-averse, weak-willed, God-forgetting immaturity. Or, as it probably says in some of the more modern translations, ‘Grow up.’

I write this with tears. As I look back over the past 20 years of my Christian life, I’ve repeatedly worshiped and served the god of open options, and I’ve seen many do the same. How many, for example, have been afraid to commit to marriage because the god of open options hates the marriage service? He knows that during it, we must promise to “forsake all others,” and that means forsaking all other options.

The god of open options is cruel and vindictive. He will break your heart. He will not let anyone get too close. But at the same time, because he’s so spiteful, he won’t let anyone get too far away because that would mean they’re no longer an option. On and on it continues, exhausting and frustrating and confusing and endless, pulling toward and then pushing away, like the tide on a beach, never finally committing one way or the other. We’ve been like the starving man sitting in front of an all-you-can-eat buffet, dying simply because he wouldn’t choose between the chicken and the shrimp.

Jesus said, “You cannot serve two masters.” At any given moment, you must choose whom you will follow. And if you choose the god of open options, you cannot at that moment choose the triune God, the one who deliberately closed off his options in order to save your life. Nothing narrows your options more than allowing your hands and feet to be nailed to a wooden cross.

This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the LORD your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the LORD is your life. (Deut. 30:19–20)

Choose the God of infinite possibility who chose to limit himself to a particular time, a particular place, and a particular people. Choose the God who closed off all other alternatives so that he could pursue for himself one bride. Choose the God who chose not to come down from the cross until she was won.

Choose the narrow way.